Updated: Dec 28, 2019
Life is full of transitions. Some transitions God appoints, some transitions we appoint. When your In a transition, there are people involved which can give another level to the transition. Not only are you experiencing transition but the people in your circle are too. Transition happens internally before it may happen externally. You may have a certain place highlighted to you before you ever pack your bags. I have noticed over the years that life can hurt when you get close with people. Especially if they go through a major life transition. Whether your in church or not. Things can really get ugly either way. They may do things that hurt you or maybe they move. Some people isolate and keep people at arm's length so they don’t get hurt when people offend them or if they decide to move away. The guaranteed thing about life is it will hurtsometimes. So expect it so it doesn’t shellshock you when it happens. The way we handle hurt or grief is our responsibility. We can embrace the sadness of missing our friends or have a caring conversation about something they did that hurt us. The damaging way to deal with hurt is to isolate and cut communication with humanity. Life also has a thing called expectations. We put these on everyone and when they don’t do what we want them to we get mad or disappointed. Hidden expectations can ruin a relationship or friendship. The greatest way to live is to expect nothing from no one. That way you will be excited when people do good things for you. When they do bad things you certainly won’t be shocked. Expect a lot from yourself and expect God to always be with you. This will help you through the trials you will have to navigate through. Hurts grow us. It teaches us how to love. It teaches us how to forgive. Hurts also make us compassionate. In ministry or church life you get close to your leaders. You desire impartation and want to receive the anointing much like Elisha did Elijah. You also have to remember God could change your leader's assignment at any time. You certainly can’t take it personally and you have to remember you only worship Jesus. You may follow men as they follow Christ but you can’t put them in throne of your heart. In the Bible, the people had begun to worship a man and God was really upset about it. There is a fine line you have to obey. I like to call it a boundary line. Sometimes God will speak something to you that your leadership says is a bad move. At that point, you have to know if you have a word form God or not. If Jesus told you to do something and you listen to your leadership about not doing it, you just took a step in disobedience. If your leadership truly cares about you and your future they will help you transition into what the Lord spoke to you about. Don’t chase a man or an anointing. Only chase God. Secretly you can lean on a man for opportunities. This will lead you into future disappointment and major discouragement. Be aware that your only desire Jesus and his kingdom come. It’s God who initiates your breakthrough. He speaks tthough ordinary men. Point people to Jesus. It’s the anointing that is attractive to people. It’s not the fancy words or style of preaching. It wasn’t that you worked for it. The annointing was a gift God gave you as you were faithful to make the right choices behind closed doors. The annointing is what makes our little words go down into the heart and spirit. The Bible says you shall have no other God’s before me. This can be your wife, your job, your money, your pastor, food, deer hunting, makeup, eBay, video games, working out, tv shows, phone, shopping. Can we be honest? Good, I’m glad we can call our sins out still. Now we can move forward. My idols are often ministry, food, phone, work, my dreams, my desires, writing, shopping, and car stuff. You don’t have to have money to worship it. You can worship wanting to have money. The spirit of mammon says all you need is more money. God says all you need is me. In Christ, we have all we will ever need for the journey. Whatever consumes your mind will become an idol if not put in proper balance. Shopping, money, work, wife, kids, food, are great when they are all in order. Balance is a beautiful thing when it’s operational in your life. Your life will flow more beautifully. Please don’t dethrone Jesus. He hung on a cross hoping we would choose to follow him in this earth. He rightfully desires the throne of our hearts. You ever noticed that when you focus on something it usually doesn’t happen until you take your mind off it. Normally we obsess on the issue or the opportunity. God doesn’t want us to worship anything other than him. He will come and deal harshly with any idols that are in our hearts. When you are focused on the wrong things it causes anxiety. When I am experiencing this I tell God I trust you even though I’m anxious! When opportunity’s come stay at the feet of Jesus until you have had a chance to process through the opportunity.
Our prayers should be Lord give me more of you. Not give me more stuff.
If we have more of the Lord he can trust us with much more money and stuff. He knows that we won’t allow it to have us or own us. Pain will Come. Your choice is to trust. Trust that God is working all things out. When you feel that your calling is being overlooked and you see others getting hired as pastors. You better celebrate them even through your pain and confusion. Remember it’s not about you. God will sometimes offend your mind as he brings you into the next season he has prepared for you. All these things were happening to me recently the pastor I was under was leaving to go to another church, my peers were being promoted around me and I felt like my world was being flipped harder upside down. I was at a job selling cars to the best of my ability. We were living with a family member. Comfort was not in my daily activity by no means. I chose to let the wilderness prepare me for what was doing. Will you track with God as he leads you in this dark season? When things aren’t going your way, on your terms. When you are not able to build your life as you want to. God will take care of you, he said if you lose your life for my sake you will actually find it.
Transitions are inevitable.
Everyone experiences painful times. Times of confusion. What we choose to believe in this times will determine our quality of life from there forward. I say this, God is with me. He knows my questions. He knows my pain. He is making a way for me to understand. Them answers often come in a week or in 5 years. I am not a victim, I am one of his children. He loves me very deeply. I choose to still love him and serve him when I don’t understand. You can learn more about the pastor than Jesus which I have done before. This is often the case because we can see a man or hear a man quicker than going to the prayer closet and waiting on a word from Jesus. Just because Jesus hasn’t answered your question don’t try to short step Jesus and get answers from your pastor. Let Jesus be your master. The Holy Spirit Just speaks through the pastor.
The pastor is just a vessel.
Here is my My rebuke for trusting in a man/pastor a few months back. “This is what the Lord says: “Cursed are those who put their trust in mere humans, who rely on human strength and turn their hearts away from the Lord. They are like stunted shrubs in the desert, with no hope for the future. They will live in the barren wilderness, in an uninhabited salty land. “But blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence. They are like trees planted along a riverbank, with roots that reach deep into the water. Such trees are not bothered by the heat or worried by long months of drought. Their leaves stay green, and they never stop producing fruit. “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? But I, the Lord, search all hearts and examine secret motives. I give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve.”Jeremiah 17:5-10 NLT The Lord lovingly rebuked me. I was more excited about hanging out with my pastor than I did about the Lord. I often found myself lusting after the future place God has called me to. I wasn’t excited about where I was because I was having to die to my wants and desires every day. Selling cars isn’t an easy career by no means. Years ago I used to weep over lost souls. I used to weep over kids being mistreated. I knew it was time to do some repenting to get my heart back in line with what God was desiring. In every transition I have been in, I have gone to the prayer closet and thanked God for each man of God he allowed me to serve and receive from. Then as always, I wept before him because I would dearly miss each one of them. I chose not to see it as a goodbye but see you later. I chose not to give an open door to rejection or any other lie the devil told me. I genuinely desire to see everyone live out the fullest destiny God has called them too.God doesn’t hoard talent as Hollywood does. God sends it out where he needs it most. I challenge you to return to your prayer closet and press in when it’s painful. There is healing available for you there. You don’t have to wait until church on Sunday. Know that before transition comes your way testing will be there daily to prepare you for that shift God has ordained for you to reach your full maturity. For me, during transitions just as Jesus was asleep in the transition to the other side while the storm was raging I’ll be focusing on being faithful with my little. Then, of course, I’ll slip out to the woods with my little buddy so we can watch that cork bob up and down in the water hoping for the big ones!